To Be or Not To Be A Wife

I recently caught up with a friend, and he asked me if I was concerned about finding a husband because of my lack of modesty. It’s crazy he asked that question because I used to spend much time concerned about my image and self-consciousness that I’ll have a bad or wild reputation. But for the last few years, I’ve stopped caring.

By Islamic standards, yes, I lack modesty and am a wild child, but I don’t care. I know I have a lot to offer the world, regardless of what I do in my free time or wear on my body. I don’t care who doesn’t deem me an appropriate Muslim wife because, I promise you, I have no desire to be their wife. I’m still a proud Muslimah and aware that what I am doing is haram. Still, the only opinion I’m concerned with is Allah(SWT). I’ll deal with the consequences of my actions when that day comes. Still, while interacting with you mere humans, I will continue being The Misunderstood Afro Muslimah.

I’m young, still growing and maturing, and I want to find a partner to be on the ride with me and down to have fun. I have zero intentions of changing my lifestyle to find a husband. I’d instead see a man who accepts me and helps balance me, halal or not. So, the answer to his question is no, I’m not concerned or even care about finding a husband. Yes, I’d love to be a wife one day, but I don’t plan on changing myself for a ring. Right now, I need to focus on entirely falling in love with myself before concerning myself with someone else.


  1. You will be an active wife, who will transform her husband… best wishes for the future, may you find the right one 😊❤☺

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  2. Love what your saying. Falling in love with your self, is what allows you to know you are worth love. I think modesty is of the heart, outside appearance does not always tell the full story. Great blog

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