Everyone knows about the middle child syndrome, and I can honestly say it is true. I have a unique case because I wasn’t always the middle child. I was the youngest for the first ten years of my life, stuck in my older brother’s shadow. He was the perfect little Muslim and scholar, and he … More A Heavy Shadow
I am a firm believer in dating outside of your type; I decided to give the swirl a chance. A sweet white guy who converted to Islam but was raised Jewish asked me on a date. Honestly, my first instinct was to politely decline, but instead, I said yes. We went out to dinner, and … More I Tried the Swirl
Life has a crazy way of making full-circle moments. I have spent so many years resenting a group of people based on being bullied as a child. During my years in Quranic school, I was ridiculed and belittled by my Somalian classmates for being black American. As an adult, I stay clear of anything that … More I Made A New Friend
Dating is an exhausting game and feels like a bunch of trial and error. A couple of years ago, I decided to open my dating pool to Non-Muslims. I typically date someone who knows a lot about Islam. So, there really was not a big difference. Now dating someone who knows little to nothing is … More Dating A Non-Muslim
I’ve been a Black Muslim woman my entire life. All of those identities seem to have their own job description; putting them all together sometimes is a suffocating reality. Being Black in America comes with its own trials of tribulations, and for fun, I get the pleasure of sexism with it. Since before I could … More Being A Black Muslimah
When people see a woman in hijab, they automatically know she is Muslim. There is a level of respect for her and her faith in the Islamic community. I do miss that part of being a hijabi. I feel like being uncovered and a black Muslimah, I constantly prove or verify that I am actually … More Non-Hijabi Woes
I was recently catching up with a friend and he asked me if I was concerned about finding a husband because of my lack of modesty. It’s crazy he asked that question because I used to spend a lot of time concerned about my image and self-consciousness that I’ll have a bad or wild reputation. … More To Be or Not To Be A Wife
I typically try to stay away from conversations dealing with race, politics, and religion, especially with people I barely know. In my opinion, those conversations never go well, and rarely does either person change their mind; both parties leave frustrated and upset. Unfortunately, I had this one co-worker who loved talking about all three! He … More A Conversation with an Atheist
I can’t believe all this time in the house and I’ve barely written anything. I have tons of notes and ideas scribbled down but haven’t actually written a post. So, I’ll just tell y’all what I have been up to. I decided to go home and spend the stay at home order with my parents … More Quarantine Days
Dating as an Ex Hijabi is very interesting and sometimes frustrating, well in all honesty dating, in general, is frustrating. I started to notice a pattern or a common theme with Muslim men. With Muslim men, I placed them in two different categories, and honestly by the end of the first conversation it was easy … More Words From An Ex Hijabi
The Misunderstood Afro Muslimah 