Elevating My Dating Game: Cannabis and Confidence

I have been outside, I have been dating, and I have been having fun! Putting myself and my well-being first has helped me tremendously in protecting my peace.

I have come to a couple of conclusions, and I say it with the most humility, I am the prize, and the right man will do anything to have me in his life. Until I find my husband, I won’t take this dating game too seriously. Instead, I have turned it into an elevated experience, creating my own Love Island reality with no problem ending and searching for new connections. Either way, whether it’s a good or terrible date, I’m going to have a good time; most likely laughing my ass off with a good Kiki with my bestie afterwards.

I tend to micro-dose when I go out on a date, just a little something to help ease my anxiety. I find that a low-dose edible gives me a gentle boost, motivation to put myself out there, and ultimately helps improve my mobility, which allows me to confidently navigate this new intentional dating adventure I’m on. Complete transparency, it has been a bit of trial and error going on a first date after consuming cannabis. 

Well, first, I never disclose that I use cannabis until I am directly asked. It’s not a secret, but also no one’s business, HIPAA. There are a lot of harmful misconceptions and stereotypes that are associated with weed, and especially people who frequently use it, and I like for people to judge me for myself. Then I add the extra spark of my elevated lifestyle. I must admit, with non-muslim men, I care less of their opinion about cannabis, but I do give Muslim men, a bit more grace and respect of a conversation. Like myself, the cannabis lifestyle is misunderstood, but I found that it yields better results and a healthier lifestyle than when I did not consume cannabis. It’s still up for debate if it is halal or not, and that’s why I give Muslim men the conversation, to understand both perspectives. I must say, so far, all of the men have understood my point and are impressed with how I utilize my time and have a more active life than most. 

However, back to the elevated dates, as I mentioned, it has been a bit of trial and error. Sometimes, I used too much, which led to paranoia. As a trauma survivor, paranoia is terrible and a bit terrifying when with a man you’re not comfortable with. Or I feel a bit too relaxed and comfortable to be myself. As much as I love all of me and know I am perfection, I do believe there is a thing of too much too soon lol. But the perfect dosage allows me to shine boldly! I have such grace, confidence, wit, and class about me that leave the men eating out of the palm of my hand.

Additionally, I’m not anxious or overthinking my actions; my full attention is on my date. I can easily spot the red and green flags, which helps me determine if our lifestyles are compatible. I know the lifestyle I am attracted to and the life I want to build with my partner. To quote the first frog to break my heart, ultimately, if I don’t find myself excited for more, it’s a no, “we don’t have the same future in mind.” 

I am enjoying embracing my feminine side and allowing men to lead the way. My ultimate goal is to find the right head to follow, so I can be the neck to direct where to go. I will settle for nothing less.