Respecting Muslim Women: The Conversation About Hijab

When people see a woman in hijab, they automatically know she is Muslim. There is a level of respect for her and her faith in the Islamic community. I do miss that part of being a hijabi. I feel like being uncovered and a black Muslimah, I constantly prove or verify that I am actually Muslim.

It is annoying when someone feels the need to give me an Islamic pop quiz before returning the salaams. Yes, I did the Islamic pop quiz for my Arab and South Asian brothers and sisters when I was in hijab, which always pissed me off. It seems like now any and everyone feels the need to verify my faith. It is comical when non-muslims try to tell me I am not Muslim because I do not cover. They always have a friend, know of someone, or just base their conclusion on the media. I try not to entertain those conversations, but I am human and enjoy giving a witty response.

What I wear and how I choose to display my modesty is between me and Allah(SWT). Nobody knows what is in my heart, regardless that shouldn’t dictate whether you return the salaams or not. I’ve never proclaimed to be the most pious Muslimah, but at the end of the day, my heart, soul, and who I am is a Muslim Woman!

So cut the shit and return the damn salaams! Nobody has to prove anything to anyone!


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53 responses to “Respecting Muslim Women: The Conversation About Hijab”

  1. Tahir Avatar

    On point Periodt!

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  2. It’s immature of others to not return the greeting , and honestly weird. It’s sorta similar in the Israelite community as well. If a woman is wearing pants and says “Shalom”, people don’t say shalom back they just stare and wave or start questioning her. Hasn’t happened to me but I’ve had my run ins with not being greeted due to whatever reason. May I ask, why did you reject the veil? And why do you think people not accept you as a muslimah just because you don’t obey the custom or rule of covering or modesty? I hope this isn’t invasive just trying to understand

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    1. Reject is such a harsh word. I decided to no longer to wear hijab because it was no longer in my heart. I went through a phase of discovering faith/religion for myself. Ultimately I decided Islam is the only religion for me, but going back into the hijab still isn’t in my heart. I don’t feel like wearing a hijab is mandatory and I display my modesty in other ways. I do believe not covering my hair is a piece of the equation, but being a black woman is also another large piece as well. Like I stated in the post in full hijab, I would still get the Islam pop quiz from my Arab and South Asian brothers and sisters.

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      1. Avy Shahana Avatar
        Avy Shahana

        I’m not a Muslimah but I rabbit-holed my way to your blog. My sister is though and we’ve discussed this a few times.

        I would say that specifically being a Black woman in America who is also Muslim, to veil or not to veil is a different kind of internal struggle. IMO, our hair has been disrespected so much — from slaves being forced to cover it to employers/administrators saying it’s unprofessional/distracting — that the idea of covering it today is just a hard nope for some. Because we’re always Black first to most people (as evidenced by Arab and South Asians seeing you covered and STILL bothering you).

        There’s a rebellious part that says: Why should I have to hide what I was blessed with just to make others comfortable?
        And a guilty part saying: I’m supposed to be modest and cover.
        Then there’s the admittedly childish part screaming: ALL women of Abrahamic faiths are “supposed” to cover so why is the Muslimah the most pressured out of all of them? Why do Christians wear nothing and the Hasidim wear wigs? It’s not fair.

        At the end of the day, it would be nice if everyone would just mind their business and believe people who say they believe — especially when you look at the hypocrisy of non-Muslims grilling you. Your faith is between you and Allah (SWT).

        Anyway, great post and I hope all is well ^_^

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      2. I appreciate your comment so much and completely agree with you! This comment made my month, and at the end of the day, I will always be black first, and even if I forget, the world finds a way to remind me.

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