Celebrating Milestones: Reflections Before 30

Let the countdown begin, because I am flying through my twenty-ninth year of life and enjoying this wild ride. The theme of this year, which I plan to take for the rest of my life, especially my thirties, is what else can I do? I have never been able to imagine my life beyond my twenties; I’m sure that’s like most people. I didn’t think I would make it to thirty for a long time, but now that we are officially three months away, I can see and feel the thirty-year-old woman I am blossoming into. 

It’s too premature to recap twenty-nine; the chapter is still in progress, and I have no idea how this year will end. However, as I quickly approach the next chapter, I have come to accept a few things about myself. I formed a pattern of putting other needs above my own, which I fully self-corrected this year, and it has been an empowering journey. As I have been evaluating my personal relationships, I have simultaneously been reflecting on how I show up for my blog. I have shared many experiences, mainly from the perspectives of dating or friendships. Still, it’s time to shift perspectives again and share more of my solo adventures. The reality is that I do and did many things by myself that I rarely share.

With that same thought, I am not humble, but let me explain. Humility is for people with nothing to say, and I have much to say! Thus, I created a blog that I hope encourages and inspires others to share their stories and talk their shit. I don’t believe in making others feel small or inferior because of my wins. I want us all to share and celebrate each victory, or remain a beacon of light for others when they’re stuck in the suck. I may not be humble, but I am kind and generous. The majority of my twenties was spent in a dark place that felt heavy and overwhelming, feeling like humility and silence were my only assets. That mindset limited my potential and never allowed me to celebrate myself. I felt it was best to keep quiet and be humble, because others are doing superior things that actually deserve celebration. I appreciate everyone who has helped me find my light and remind me that we have a lot to say, and I don’t need others to enhance my value. 

As the clock continues to tick, and the words fill the page of the conclusion of my twenties, one thing often replays in my mind. Al-Humduillah, life didn’t work out as planned, because my reality is immensely better and more satisfying. I will always be grateful for creating this blog and outlet to share and reflect on my growth. I have come a long way. Each post, review, and interview is a small piece of how I discovered, embraced, and love Kareema, and I no longer want to hide. I enjoy being seen and standing out.